Questions We Ask Our Kids

I just read a great article suggesting that we stop asking our children what they want to be when they grow up. The author, Adam Grant, wasn’t implying that our children shouldn’t dream or aspire to fulfill a personal calling. He was, however, bringing reality back into the equation.

Grant’s comment that asking children what they want to be when they are older forces them to define themselves by their career. This focus shifts defining a desirable adult path away from the characteristics we hope our children possess as adults (happiness, empathy, morality, nurturing) and can have regardless of the job they choose or may hired for.

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